Stay all-in through a moral ecosystem, alive with the daily practice of six essential virtues.
The virtues don’t just magically appear in a partnership. It takes hard work and curiosity to practice and build them until they become a part of everything you do. Of course, no-one is perfect, living these virtues is a constant evolution, a constant growing and learning experience.
A respect so deep it celebrates differences and can’t be broken by inevitable human mistakes. An honoring and awe of one another that allows you to live your truth.
We’ve all had the experience of trying to communicate something important while the other person is somewhere else, not listening at all. We’ve also all been guilty of doing the same ourselves.
Not only is it disrespectful, it undermines the connection, sapping the person’s willingness to share and damaging their confidence. And then there is that more rare occurrence where someone listens deeply, with great attention and consideration. This is what Paul Bennett, Partner at IDEO and photographer Jim Cooper’s spouse, meant when he said, “when your partner speaks the world stops.” Paul and Jim discuss how respect is as much about deep listening and being present as it is about praise and affirmation.
Share the list with your Deep Connection, letting them know their gift of listening and unshakeable respect for you doesn’t go unnoticed.
A shared confidence in each other and faith that together you can make the impossible possible.
He’s given me huge confidence,” Jane Tewson said of her husband, Charles. “He is an absolute rock. He tells it like it is, which is pretty hard sometimes.” Great partners are constantly pushing the boundaries and helping us take on something much bigger. Encouraging united belief helps individuals and organizations step into their highest potential.
Send them a text in honor of being your anchor of confidence. Let this message remind them of your gratitude and united belief in one another.
An anchor of confidence can give you the power to be an anchor of confidence for others. Gift them with a message of confidence and keep the chain of United Belief alive.
The ability to keep your ego in check and constantly learn from and be in service to each other. An understanding of our own limitations and gratitude for what others bring to the relationship.
The sense of humility that emerged from all the partnerships was aided by their focus on something bigger and the realization that we are in service to our partners and our mission—not in control of them. As Paul Bennet mentioned about his partnership with Jim Cooper, “I think one of the best by-products of our relationship is that my ego has gone in a very healthy way. I feel like I’m in service in this relationship. I feel like I’m in service in my work.”
Practice shared humility by being in service to a Deep Connection without expecting anything in return.
You trust each other with your lives. The first phone call type of trust. Grounded in trusting in good intentions, in something bigger and in yourself.
This level of trust takes time and can be fostered through intentional practice. The co-founders of AirBnB, Joe Gebbia, Brian Chesky and Nate Blecharczy, developed an authentic activity, creatively titled Elephants, Dead Fish and Vomit, to cultivate Enduring Trust within the organization. Elephants are the big things in the room that nobody is talking about. Dead Fish are the things that happened a few years ago that people can’t get over. Vomit represents the thoughts that people need to get off their mind with someone to just sit there and listen.
Try it out for yourself now before playing with others Think of a partnership that already holds a level of trust where you assume good intentions.
Consider the ‘Elephants, Dead Fish and Vomit’ and answer the following questions:
Keep up the practice and see how you can cultivate trust in all your relationships by bringing the Elephant, Dead Fish, and Vomit questions into other partnerships and group settings.
A giving mindset that competes only through acts of generosity.
Generosity is about loving before being loved. Trusting before being trusted. Giving without demand—or even expectation—of return. And interestingly, when you live generously a lot more actually does come back to you in a powerfully affirming way.
Look at this often and use it as a daily affirmation that serves to nurture generosity.
Contemplate: How might you practice more generosity in every type of partnership you have?